Jan 172011
 

Question:

My husband and I want to start exploring anal sex. I know that you have to start slow, use fingers first and all of that, but what is a good beginners anal toy to get me started?

Answer:

First of all, before you bring sex toys into the picture, make sure you add lube. It can be either silicone base lubricant or water based lubricant (unless you’re using silicone toys, then just use water based lube), but your butt does NOT naturally lubricate in any way, shape or form, so you need some lube to help it feel better, go in easier, and to help prevent any pain or tearing. My favorite anal lube to suggest is water based and is called Maximus.

As far as toys, my number one anal toy I love recommending to people is the Flexi Felix from Fun Factory, a 100% silicone set of anal beads. You can start small with just one tiny one, and work your way up. Great first timer dildos are the Silk set from Tantus; they come in small, medium and large. Then of course, if you want to go with a butt plug, I like the Tantus B-Bomb or the Crystal Delights Butt Plug, but these are a little more intermediate than anal beads or small, smooth dildos.

Good luck, have fun, and remember; anal sex isn’t supposed to hurt, so if it does begin to feel uncomfortable, STOP!

-Shanna

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Dec 082010
 

Last weekend, I was lucky enough to get to participate Ignite Phoenix After Hours. Basically, if chosen to present, you have five minutes and 20 power point slides to present on a topic that you are passionate about. I, being passionate about it, chose vaginal fisting…which should NOT be done in 5 minutes, but you can definitely talk about it in five minutes. I had fun, although I usually don’t use computers or power points when I do workshops, so it was definitely a different experience.

I’m sorry you can’t see the power point so well, but at least the volume is pretty good. Thanks to my wonderful partner for taping it for me! Enjoy, and remember fisting is fun!

Enjoy!

-Shanna