Nov 082012

For those who don’t follow me on Facebook or Twitter, I recently had some of my sex tips published, along side sex educators Megan Andelloux and Sadie Allison, in the November issue of Cosmo.

Unfortunately, that issue is already off shelves. Luckily, a friend scanned her copy for me, so if you’d like to check out some of our ideas on how to please your partner (let’s be real – this is Cosmo…so how to please a man) with your mouth, outside of “give him a blow job,” you can click on the pictures below. If you want to check out other Cosmo tips, check out their sex advice section. You can also read my sexuality advice column over at Out Front Colorado.

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Cosmo Sex Tips p170

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Cosmo Sex Tips p171

Cosmo Sex Tips p171

May 132011

In case you were not yet aware, May is National Masturbation Month!

Now, many awareness months bring attention to negative things that may be happening, such as April being National Sexual Assault Awareness Month. Other awareness months focus on getting people to act on something, to change their behavior, like Get Yourself Tested (for STIs) Month.

However, May is all about something fun and pleasurable; masturbation, self love, flying solo, etc. Everyone has the ability, in some way, shape or form, to masturbate. You can do it on your own, you can love yourself while in the same room/bed/space as your partner, you could even be that star of a one person sex show. Whether you use your fingers, toys, a pillow, your mind, porn, erotica, a washing machine, the shower head, an electric toothbrush, a vibrating hair brush, a condomed cucumber (not anal safe unless you carve a base into it), or something else entirely, masturbation is a fabulous way to get to know your sexual self a little better, explore your wants and needs, and let of a little sex-centered steam…as well as a great way to practice safer sex if you’re getting down with a partner.

Orgasms can add endorphins and oxytocin to your system, making you feel super good — whether the orgasm is with a partner, or on your own. Masturbation feels good in general. If you masturbate, you get to know your body better, meaning you can tell current/future partners what you like (and don’t like) as well as know if something is changing in a not so good way (and then you can let your doctor know). For many, masturbation can give you a surge of energy, while for many others, masturbation is a great way to relax, de-stress, and even ease into sleep. One study in Australia found that those with prostates who ejaculated (via masturbation or other sexual activities) 30 times or more a month had a significantly lower risk of getting prostate cancer.

So with all of these reasons to jack and jill off, why not get started? Don’t forget some of the following:

*Whatever way you masturbate (assuming than any viewers/participants are consenting) is the right way for you. There is not holy grail/right way to masturbate. Promise.

*If you’re an exhibitionist, make sure anyone who might stumble across you (roommates, family, park rangers, security guards, etc) is consenting to what they might see.

*If toys are your forte, don’t forget to use body friendly toys (and clean them regularly!), or put a condom on any toy that my contain phthalates or other non-orifice friendly chemicals.

*Have a friend (or two) join in; circle jerks are not just for high school boys (although that is the stereotype). Group masturbation can be fun, and you can learn things.

*Not wanting to share with your friends? If you have a partner, consider inviting them. You can both learn a ton about each others’ bodies, and what your turn ons are!

Happy National Masturbation Month to everyone!