Last week, I was lucky enough to be invited to Brown University for Sex Week 2010. I put on four workshops/classes; Strap On 101, SexAbility; The Intersections between Sexuality and Disability, Making it Work Outside the Box; Relationships and Communication, and Feminist & Sex-Positive Pornography. All in all, I reached a good number of students, had a lot of fun, got some great questions and statements, and had a blast. Other exciting educators that I know and love who spoke/will be speaking include Oh Megan and Sarah Sloane.
I got back, and a day or two later, found this “article” or press release posted about “kinky sex at Brown University.” Yeah. Out of all of the amazing and good things that are happening, they decided to take a decidedly sex-negative bent. Goddess forbid college students, staff and faculty learn about sexual pleasure outside of “safer sex and sexual assault,” which were the only two things that this organization wanted people to learn about. Everything else should be kept in the privacy of dorm rooms (never mind that I answered one students question letting them know that it would be easy to start a porn company or at least webcam out of their dorm room…).
My luncheon on feminist/sex-positive pornography was amazing. We talked about ethics, about the problem with naming something “sex for women,” about what feminism looked like from a sexuality angle, and what sex-positive really meant. One of the best classes/lectures I’ve ever presented…and clearly, it is stirring up drama.
Good. It’s time we talked about why so many places only count safer sex and prevent sexual assault as their “comprehensive sexuality education.” Sex and sexuality encompasses so much more than condoms and “just say no” and while these things are important, not providing education to discuss, nourish and represent other parts of sexuality and identites does all of our communities a huge service.
I’m actually quite proud that they are upset in their post. I only wish that they had linked here to get a little bit of my reasoning behind why I do what I do. Congrats to Aida and the entire Sex Week at Brown for getting people to talk in a postive light about full spectrum sexuality