Nov 192010
 

This person had THREE questions, so I’ll answer them all together in one post.

Question 1: Is a man’s prostate equivlent to a woman’s clitoris or G-spot during sexual arousal?

Answer 1: It is much more similar to the G-spot (or Grafenberg spot) than it is to the clitoris. The clitoris is the same tissue as the head/tip of the penis (the clitoral hood is similar to the penile foreskin).  While the G-spot and prostate (some people call it the P-spot) are not similar tissue, the deep, internal, full body orgasms that they can help to create are much more similar than those more intense, genital centric external orgasm driven by clitoral or penile stimulation.

Question 2: Is sex better with a circumcised person or an uncircumcised person?

Answer 2: It depends on the person. Sex can be different, and in general, there is a big push against male infant circumcision right now, as some studies have show that it can remove pleasurable areas for the penis possesser. However, as far as whether a person is better at sex? It has nothing to do with circumcision, but more on knowledge, their listening ability and practice.

Question 3: What amount of protein does cum have?

Answer 3: The average amount of ejaculation has lots of different nutrients in it; similar to what composes the human body. It contains approximately 150 MG of semen…so just a trace amount that will not actually affect your daily protein intake. I’ve definitely heard people say things like “just swallow — that way you can get like 30 grams of protein” — it’s total bull. Swallow if you want to, but please don’t do so solely for the purpose of ingesting protein!

Shanna

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Nov 182010
 

I feel like I may need to start a series of posts on “this does not equal that,” the first one being my post on how sex and gender are two different things.

This week is about how activity and orientation are completely different.

One of the post common questions I get asked (and gets asked of most sexuality educators, having seen many of them present) is asked by cisgender men and/or their partners. It is either asked as “if I like to receive anal sex/enjoy prostate play, does that make me gay?” or “is my boyfriend/partner/husband gay because he enjoys anal play on his own ass?” Sometimes it is asked with different wording, but it boils down to “does enjoying anal play make a guy gay?”

Answer is simple: NO. Period.

However, we can certainly explain it more. It doesn’t make you gay, just like cisgender men enjoying vaginas doesn’t make them straight. Whatever sexual activity you like, all the means is that you like that activity. Who you like is your orientation. Now, if you only like men sexually, that may or may not mean that you’re gay, but it has nothing to do with who is putting what in which orifice, or even with sexual activity at all.

As a side note, gay males (studies show) participate more in giving/receiving fellatio (oral sex on the penis) more than anal sex (oral/anal or penetrative). The idea that all gay men love butt sex is a misnomer and a stereotype…and you almost never hear people say “I like getting head…does that mean I’m gay?” (Oh Megan suggests asking that as a response to “does enjoy prostate stimulation make me/you gay?”).

Just like performing cunnilingus or vaginal visiting doesn’t make anyone a lesbian, no activities make anyone a new orientation. Take a moment and think about who you are sexually oriented to; is it based on sex? On gender? On height? On hair color? On shape? On wit? On commitment to social justice (that’s me!)? THAT can help you figure out your orientation…but what you enjoy as far as sexual activity has nothing to do with it.