Sexual Consent is voluntary, sober, wanted, informed and mutual verbal agreement to be sexually intimate. We can’t talk about sex without talking about consent, because sexual consent is not only the law, but it is a sexy and healthy part of a relationship. Why?
Communication simply makes relationships better.
Expressing your needs and concerns is healthy. Asking for what you want and asking your partner(s) what they want is sexy. The more you open you are with your partner(s), and the more you know about each other, the more creative and exciting sex is. Plus, communicating and listening means you respect each other, which promotes trust and honesty.
Remember, consent is verbal, not implied. Here are some consent conversation starters:
- Share your fantasies, and see how your partner responds. Are they interested? Do they have common fantasies? If so, start exploring them.
- Ask your partner what they want. If you are excited about what they want, talk about your mutual wants. If you are nervous or unsure, communicate this too.
- Talk about boundaries and respect them.
- Ask your partner how they’re feeling. If they reply with something like “good” or “okay” ask them what this means to them.
There are lots of ways to get consent, and consent will look different the more you get to know your partner(s). The most important thing is to listen and remember consent is never implied. Consent is a verbal yes.