Mar 162011
 

As I’ve said before, the anus is the great equalizer — everyone has an anus (I feel like this should be an Avenue Q song somehow…you know, “Everyone One Has an Anus…everyone has a butt!). Whether you personally like to put things in it or not is up to you, but it’s a fact that everyone HAS an anus, meaning that anyone who wants to CAN experiment with anal sex/anal stimulation, whether on their own, with a partner, etc. That said, we don’t really talk much about butt sex and back door action, which means that some people may not know how to get started, or may have some beginner’s knowledge, but want to know more about the anatomy of the butt and how rear revelry can increase pleasure in certain people’s lives, etc, or maybe they are wonderful about the health, wellness and safer sex side of things.

Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Men

I’d like to to suggest that before you head out and get a bevy of sex toys to stick up your butt (making sure, of course, that they have a flanged base–meaning that the bottom is wider than the rest of the toy to prevent them from getting stuck in your butt), you check out these two books written by the queen of anal education herself, Tristan Taormino. She has two books out (well, more, but I was sent these two in exchange for an honest review); the Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women and the Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Men.

Now, I usually talk about body parts are body parts, regardless of the gender of the person; nipples can be played with the same on everyone, necks can be kissed the same on everyone, etc. However, because of the presence of the prostate gland in those assigned male at birth, I understand why the books are written as such. That said, a lot of the information is the same, so if you’re in a couple with both someone with and someone without a prostate, I’d suggest getting the Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Men, as it has more info on the prostate and prostate specific stimulation, but most of the info can also be used for people who don’t have prostates.

Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women

Both books cover great info about the spectrum of anal sex, but don’t get too technical or academic, so they’re good for people both beginning butt sex as well as educators and those with more experience with the technical terms and anatomy of the back door. Some of the info isn’t going to be relevant to everyone, but I don’t think it is meant for everyone to read it through from beginning to end — it’s good to check out the sections that interest you most, to share them with your partner(s) if you’re interested in playing together.

All in all, I’d say these are two of the best books on anal sex currently available, and are great educational butt sex resources for both newbies and anal sex lovers, and those that enjoy collecting sex books for a little bit more pizazz on their bookshelf.

Click here to get the Ultimate Guide to Anal for Women. Click here to get the Ultimate Guide to Anal for Men.

-Shanna

Feb 162011
 

Since it IS “Hump Day,” I thought I’d post another video of my anal sex 101 workshop, called What’s Up with the Butt. I have a video of one of my classes already up (click here to view the anal sex class video), but I did this class after I got my two butt puppets; Andi the Anus and Riley the Rectum. Ergo, I thought I’d give it another taping, so you can enjoy more intro to anal fun, and of course, check out my anal puppets. This is a great video (as is the other) to watch if you’re scared of anal sex, wanting to try anal sex, or have tried it and found that it hurt, as well as if you are a lover of butt sex, and just looking for some more fun ideas to try. Class was taught in January 2011 at Fascinations in Arizona.

Enjoy!

-Shanna

Jan 172011
 

Question:

My husband and I want to start exploring anal sex. I know that you have to start slow, use fingers first and all of that, but what is a good beginners anal toy to get me started?

Answer:

First of all, before you bring sex toys into the picture, make sure you add lube. It can be either silicone base lubricant or water based lubricant (unless you’re using silicone toys, then just use water based lube), but your butt does NOT naturally lubricate in any way, shape or form, so you need some lube to help it feel better, go in easier, and to help prevent any pain or tearing. My favorite anal lube to suggest is water based and is called Maximus.

As far as toys, my number one anal toy I love recommending to people is the Flexi Felix from Fun Factory, a 100% silicone set of anal beads. You can start small with just one tiny one, and work your way up. Great first timer dildos are the Silk set from Tantus; they come in small, medium and large. Then of course, if you want to go with a butt plug, I like the Tantus B-Bomb or the Crystal Delights Butt Plug, but these are a little more intermediate than anal beads or small, smooth dildos.

Good luck, have fun, and remember; anal sex isn’t supposed to hurt, so if it does begin to feel uncomfortable, STOP!

-Shanna

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Nov 182010
 

I feel like I may need to start a series of posts on “this does not equal that,” the first one being my post on how sex and gender are two different things.

This week is about how activity and orientation are completely different.

One of the post common questions I get asked (and gets asked of most sexuality educators, having seen many of them present) is asked by cisgender men and/or their partners. It is either asked as “if I like to receive anal sex/enjoy prostate play, does that make me gay?” or “is my boyfriend/partner/husband gay because he enjoys anal play on his own ass?” Sometimes it is asked with different wording, but it boils down to “does enjoying anal play make a guy gay?”

Answer is simple: NO. Period.

However, we can certainly explain it more. It doesn’t make you gay, just like cisgender men enjoying vaginas doesn’t make them straight. Whatever sexual activity you like, all the means is that you like that activity. Who you like is your orientation. Now, if you only like men sexually, that may or may not mean that you’re gay, but it has nothing to do with who is putting what in which orifice, or even with sexual activity at all.

As a side note, gay males (studies show) participate more in giving/receiving fellatio (oral sex on the penis) more than anal sex (oral/anal or penetrative). The idea that all gay men love butt sex is a misnomer and a stereotype…and you almost never hear people say “I like getting head…does that mean I’m gay?” (Oh Megan suggests asking that as a response to “does enjoy prostate stimulation make me/you gay?”).

Just like performing cunnilingus or vaginal visiting doesn’t make anyone a lesbian, no activities make anyone a new orientation. Take a moment and think about who you are sexually oriented to; is it based on sex? On gender? On height? On hair color? On shape? On wit? On commitment to social justice (that’s me!)? THAT can help you figure out your orientation…but what you enjoy as far as sexual activity has nothing to do with it.

Sep 152010
 

Shanna Katz and her butt puppets

One of my favorite workshops to teach is What’s Up with the Butt — Anal 101. I’ll be teaching it tomorrow night in Tucson, Arizona, at the Fascinations store there. This class, however, is going to be extra super duper special. Why? In addition to talking about have to have safe, healthy and pleasurable anal sex, how to incorporate safer sex into anal play, and what sex toys are good for butt play, I’ll also be debuting my TWO new, anatomically correct butt puppets, as seen above. On the left is Andi the Anus, and the right shows Riley the Rectum. I love making sex education fun AND informational, and I’m sure that these puppets will certainly help (I also have Vivianne, my vulva puppet, and she always is in high demand). Anyways, this butt class is going to be fun and super awesome!

Time: 7pm

Cost: FREE (first 20 attendees get a $10 gift card to the store)

Where:

Fascinations

3658 E Speedway Blvd

Tucson, AZ 85716

(520) 322-0757

No RSVP needed, but seating is limited, so first come, first sat.

Also included are food, drinks, and a raffle!

I hope to see some of you all there.

-Shanna

Aug 132010
 

Hey all –

It’s a few months old, but I finally found a recording of my June Anal 101 class (entitled “What’s Up with the Butt”) that is in pretty good shape. It’s before I got my anal puppet sadly (I’ll try and get a picture of that up shortly), but if you weren’t able to come to the class, or were, and want to learn more about posterior pleasure, rectal revelry, or good old fashioned butt sex, please watch it and enjoy! My hope is that you learn something, or at least get a good laugh or two at my expense.

-Shanna