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Q and A: First Time Anal Toy

Question:

My husband and I want to start exploring anal sex. I know that you have to start slow, use fingers first and all of that, but what is a good beginners anal toy to get me started?

Answer:

First of all, before you bring sex toys into the picture, make sure you add lube. [...]

Q and A: Blood and Blow Jobs

Question:

Is it normal for a guy to bleed during a blow job?

Answer:

For the most part, no. Can it happen? Certainly. Skin on the penis (and definitely on the scrotum covering the testicles) is pretty hardy, but can get nicked by teeth, braces, etc. If it happens once and is just a [...]

Q and A: Ejaculating on Partners

Question:

Why do guys like to cum (ejaculate) on their partners?

Answer:

Great question. Well, first of all, not all guys like to ejaculate on their partners. Some prefer to do it inside their partner, and/or inside a condom. Others prefer to do it in a towel/rag (some people call it a cum towel or [...]

Q and A: Masturbation, Female Orgasms and Pre-Cum

This person had THREE questions, so I’m going to be answering them all together.

Question 1: Do all men and women masturbate?

Answer 1: Great question…and well, how would we even begin to figure out if all people masturbate? What if you masturbate once a year — does that count as actively masturbating? Or what [...]

Q and A: Long Distance Relationship and Non-Monogamy

Question: I am in a long distance relationship and my girlfriend wants to sleep with other people with no emotional attachment. Is it more likely than not that if we tried this, our relationship would tank?

Answer: I’m not going to put a probability on it. Why? Because I don’t know how well you communicate, [...]

Q and A: Prostates, Circumcision and Semen Protein

This person had THREE questions, so I’ll answer them all together in one post.

Question 1: Is a man’s prostate equivlent to a woman’s clitoris or G-spot during sexual arousal?

Answer 1: It is much more similar to the G-spot (or Grafenberg spot) than it is to the clitoris. The clitoris is the same tissue [...]

Q and A: Is it Normal to NOT Have Multiple Orgasms?

Question:

Is it normal that I don’t have multiple orgasms? I’ve read about a million times that I should be able to have all these orgasms. But the truth is, if I have one, the likelihood that I’ll have another one in the next 24 hour period is pretty much zero, and chances are, [...]