Mar 272013
 

Both folks online and those attending my workshops are always asking me for an inclusive list of all of the sex toy and lubricant companies that create body friendly sex toys and lubes. I usually point them over to the Coalition Against Toxic Toys (aka, BadVibes.org), but their list, while excellent, is much shorter than all of the companies out there producing good products. And of course, if you check out my list of Feminist and Sex Positive Toys Stores, you’ll be more likely to find good quality, body safe sex toys and lubes there.

That all being said, I’ve spent the last few weeks putting together the most inclusive list I could of body friendly sex toy companies and body safe lube companies. I’ve asked other sex educators, sexuality retailers, bloggers, etc, and together, we have created this list of companies. Now, they could certainly change their products, and I might not know, so if you have info on them producing toxic toys, just contact me. Also contact me if you know of a body friendly company that is not yet on the list, and I’ll update it. However, please note that I am trying to feature companies that are completely phthalate and other chemical free, so while some larger toys companies DO produce SOME body friendly toys, they are not listed because other toys they make are dangerous for bodies.

And with no further ado, I present to you, my list of Body Friendly Sex Toy and Lube Companies.

Mar 242013
 

Fabulous news – I’ve been working with MySecretLuxury.com to create a series of sexuality kits to help you optimize your love life with quality, body friendly toys & lubes, and excellently written sex books.  These kits make great gifts, whether to yourself, your partner, or for an event like a birthday, graduation, wedding, civil union, or other such celebration. Each contains everything you’ll need to have a truly wonderful time with toys that you know are of great quality, made by ethical companies, and will not harm your body.

You can see the whole list of kits here, or check out each individual one from this body positive luxurious toy site:

Anal 101 Kit

Captivating Cunnilingus Kit

Fabulous Fellatio Kit

G-Spot Explorations Kit

Sensual Sensations Kits

Strap On Beginner’s Kit

 

Mar 052013
 

Tiendas Amables de Juguetes Sexuales Cerca de Usted

Mucha gente me preguntan cuales tiendas recomiendo. Afortunado a todos, he recompilado una lista de tiendas fabulosas a las que los dueños son feministas o son mujueres, o donde hay una declaración de apoyar el positivismo hacia el sexo.

Esa lista de tiendas increibles con cosas seguras para su cuerpo puede encontrase aquí (sólo en Inglés).

Olvidando a alguien? Digame si olvidé una tienda positiva, y la agregaré después de investigar sus practicas. Y sí, hay un tiempo para usar Amazon, pero preferiría que usted respalde las tiendas locales de juguetes sexuales y centros de recursos para la sexualidad (y librerías locales!) en vez de un sitio tan grande. Comprará usted un consolador usando un sitio de web grande? No es tan importante. Pero comprarlo de una tienda local? Eso resultará en una inversión en una comunidad del sexo positivo. Cuál le parece más emocionate? (Creía así.)

Disfrute de la lista, y disfruten hacer la compra más informada de juguetes sexuales.

Shanna

Feb 202013
 

Fun Factory FOU

I wanted to like the Fun Factory FOU. I really did. I mean, I love Fun Factory toys…the Smart Balls are brilliant, the Tiger dildo is one of my absolute favorites, and the Layaspot is a really awesome external vibrator.

Sadly, my adoration for the fabulous silicone sex toys made by Fun Factory ends here. As cute and adorable as the FOU is in style, it lacks in actual useability. Yes, it has lots of fancy buttons, and in addition to various speeds, it has various vibration patterns. Sounds epic, yes? However, the majority of the vibration is actually located in the base of the toy (the white part in the picture), rather in the fun silicone part that actually touches your body. Not having the majority of the vibration in the part of the toy actually doing the work? Total rookie toy move, and not something that I would expect from such an awesome toy manufacturer.

The other issue was with the design itself. Supposedly, the clitoris is supposed to fit in the small indentation in the toy. Given the various sizes, lengths, widths, sensitivities, etc of clitorises, I find this hard to believe. Even if it did fit, there wasn’t enough vibration to really do anything, but it still seems like a silly design.

I do love that it is rechargeable, and has the cool magnetic charger like the newer Macs. It’s also 100% body safe – no phthalates to be found here! Because it is 100% medical grade silicone, you should use a water based lube with it. Silicone lube will ruin the toy. Which, given its lack of awesomeness, might not be the worst thing to ever happen. *shakes head sadly*

If you are more adventurous than I, and are willing to give it another chance, head on over to Adult Sensations and get your own Fun Factory FOU vibrator. Otherwise, if you want an awesome clitoral/external vibrator, I’d say go for the Lelo Siri or even just a basic Fun Factory Layaspot.

-Shanna

Feb 142013
 

Whether you are single or partnered, who doesn’t love winning a free body friendly sex toy and a bottle of organic lube?

That’s what I thought.

Thanks to some love from Lovehoney and Sliquid, you get the chance to win your very own glass dildo and bottle of organic lube. Here’s what you can win:

The Lovehoney Sensual Glass Waver Dildo

lovehoney glass dildo

A 4 oz Bottle of Sliquid Oceanics Natural Gel

Sliquid Organics Lube

I bet you want to know how to enter. Luckily for you, there are lots of ways you can enter!

1) Leave comment on this post about why you should win. (1 entry)

2) Tweet about the giveaway. Example: “Win free swag from @sliquidllc and @lovehoney at http://shannakatz.com/2013/02/14/v-day-giveaway. Thanks @shanna_katz!” Leave a comment with a link to the tweet. (1 entry per day)

3. Post on Facebook about the giveaway with a link to http://shannakatz.com/2013/02/14/v-day-giveaway. Leave a comment with a link to the tweet. (1 entry per day)

4. Sign up to receive my monthly newsletter, the Katz Meow. Leave a comment. (1 entry)

5. Write a post on your blog about the giveaway and link to here. Leave a comment with a link to the post (5 entries)

Alrighty, the deadline for all of your entries is Midnight on Friday, March 1, 2013.

Let the games being!

-Shanna

Feb 092013
 

People frequently ask me which sex toy stores I recommend to them. Lucky for everyone, I’ve been working on compiling a whole list of awesome toy stores that are feminist owned, or woman owned, or have a stated commitment to sex positivity.

Said list of awesome sex toys stores with body friendly items can be found here.

Am I missing anyone? Let me know, and I’ll add them pending me checking them out. While Amazon has its time and place, I would much rather you support your local sex toy stores and sexuality resource centers (and local bookstores!) over a large site like that. Buying a dildo from a big fancy site? Not a big deal for one dildo. Buying a dildo from a locally owned store? That is an investment in increasing sex positivity in our community. Which sounds more exciting? I thought so.

Enjoy the list, and enjoy your savvy sex toy shopping.

Shanna

Feb 082013
 

In the last week, there has been a ridiculous preponderance of racism within the “sex positive” community. Now, racism is ridiculous in and of itself. It has permeated every facet of our culture. However, this racism is beyond blatant, and yet, people within the supposedly allied gay leather community, and the porn community (including a “feminist” identified white cis male porn star) are saying that it is NOT racism, and wouldn’t it be so nice if those angry people of color (and white allies) who are calling it out would just shut the hell up about it, because it is making them uncomfortable that they support, and are amused by/turned on by, something that is racist.

Case #1: Yellow Face in the Burning Angel Parody of the Walking Dead XXX Parody.

First reported by Jezebel here: http://jezebel.com/5980498/walking-dead-porn-parody-relies-on-yellowface. Basically, director Joanna Angel (who has identified as a feminist, and actually done some great things to change the face of porn, and women’s roles in it) decides to put yellow face on actor Danny Wylde, including yellow make up and taped up eyes (yes, people actually do this). I’d assume that everyone would be like “whaaaaa? That’s fucking racist!” Until later, when I saw this: http://business.avn.com/articles/video/BurningAngel-Racist-What-Jew-Talkin-Bout-Jezebel-506028.html#.UQsvDjK_Tpg.twitter. Summation? Apparently, Joanna Angel cannot possibly racist because she’s Jewish. Um. I’m Jewish, and putting someone in yellow face is racist. Period. If for some reason, you couldn’t find a porn start who was ACTUALLY Asian, why not just throw a hat on the actor and call it a day. Since when is porn concerned about being 100% accurate to the script? Alas, it gets worse. Danny Wylde, the actor in question, writes this post: http://trvewestcoastfiction.blogspot.com/2013/01/where-i-try-to-explain-why-i-look-like.html?m=1 about why he looks like an asshole (which he does), and say he’s a feminist (which he’s not – racism is NOT a feminist trait), and then goes on to cisplain/mansplain/whitesplain about how it’s ok, because he plays a rapist on kink.com, but isn’t really, so it’s ok. He never even offers a full apology. A small faction of the porn and a larger faction of the sex positive community went (rightly) up in arms about this incredibly racist act, and they’ve been told that it’s porn, calm the fuck down, and it’s not really racism, because I mean, it’s not like black face or anything. ALERT: It IS racism. Period. And if you support racist acts, you are perpetuating racism. The end.

Case #2: The Portland Eagle leather bar books incredibly racist, classist and sexist drag queen, and then when the community calls them out, they support their decision, and invite folks to attend said performance for dialogue. 

Read all about it (including a video link to said fucked up performance) here on Mollena’s blog: http://www.mollena.com/2013/02/blackface-still-racist-yall/. Based on the previous case of yellow face where people flat out said that it wasn’t racist because it wasn’t black face, then clearly, this is flat out racism, right? Because it’s black face. And making fun of “welfare queens” and women, and mothers, and anyone of color, and the list goes on. CLEARLY, this one is racism and shouldn’t everyone in the marginalized gay community stand up to say this is unacceptable? HA. No. People speaking out against this are now classified as “oh, they’re just Angry Black Women” (um, which they have every right to be given this situation) as compared to community members who are calling out blatant racism. I’m Angry Woman about this issues, and I am not Black. I am white. And guess what, I still calling out fucking racism when I see it. And anyone who tries to defend this act as funny? Guess what. People also think sexist, ableist, homophobic, ageist, classist, etc jokes are funny, but it doesn’t make them any less fucked up. It doesn’t make them any less sexist, ableist, homophobic, ageist, classist, etc. If you like racist jokes, fine – that is your right. But don’t pretend for one second that it ISN’T actually racist. And when your own community members (did I mention that Mollena was International Ms. Leather in 2010?) are telling you that this is messed up and unacceptable, telling them to be quiet, or withdrawing friendships, is not ok. Moreover, if you identify as inclusive, or feminist, or an ally of any sort, say that you’re not going to get involved, or you don’t “comment on these type of things” is ridiculously cowardly. Would you be silent if another type of club booked a comedian that talked about how messed up queer folk and kinky folk were? Would you be silent if someone was beat up for their identity? I would hope not. Remaining silent in this situation is no less cowardly. As Audre Lorde once said, Your silence will not protect you.

I have so much more to say, but it is this is devolving into just a rant, and that is not helpful from me. The people who agree with it know how fucked up these two situations are. I call for other allies, particularly those with white privilege (like myself), to bring more attention to these issues, and to call our community out. It is our responsibility to call out racism and support our brothers and sisters of color. They should not have to be the ones putting themselves on the line about racism, but they almost always are. It is our turn to support them and make sure our communities know that this is absolutely not ok.

Nov 132012
 

I know this blog hasn’t had as many new and exciting posts as it used to, which might be heart breaking to some.  But good news – you can read my writings on a monthly basis at The Fearless Press over at my column entitled Unapologetic, and twice a month, you can get all of your sex, sexuality, and relationship questions answered in my Body Positive sex advice column.

Plus, my newest book, a Lesbian Sexuality and Sex Positions book, entitled She and Her, is now available for pre-order on Amazon.com, or ask your favorite local book retailer or sex positive toy store to order it in advance for you. Add that to Oral Sex That’ll Blow Her Mind, a 5-star reviewed cunnilingus guide, and you not only have fun reading, but some great gift ideas for the holiday season, and even Valentine’s day!

I’m also participating in a sexuality education project called What They Are Asking, where a group of sex educators, myself included, record video answers to popular questions asked by college students and other young adults, about the spectrum of sexuality. Check out the site, vote on questions, and watch the video answers!

Plus, I’m always available for sex coaching and relationship counseling (available in person in the Denver Metro area and via Skype for those out of that area), private workshops, and bookings for events, schools and more.

Nov 122012
 

For the 2nd year running, I’ve been nominated by and made the finalist round of the Westword #WebAwards. This awards grouping includes best local celebrities online, best twitter handles/uses by local businesses and much more. I’m in good company of the finalists with the Red Headed Slut (who won last year), Mistress Saskia (who runs the dungeon where I host a local queer kinky play party) and the Center for Sex Positive Culture (whose board I am on). All in all, a very competitive race!

To see the other finalists, both in the sex blog category, and all of the other categories, check out the #WebAwards finalist listings.

Nov 082012
 

For those who don’t follow me on Facebook or Twitter, I recently had some of my sex tips published, along side sex educators Megan Andelloux and Sadie Allison, in the November issue of Cosmo.

Unfortunately, that issue is already off shelves. Luckily, a friend scanned her copy for me, so if you’d like to check out some of our ideas on how to please your partner (let’s be real – this is Cosmo…so how to please a man) with your mouth, outside of “give him a blow job,” you can click on the pictures below. If you want to check out other Cosmo tips, check out their sex advice section. You can also read my sexuality advice column over at Out Front Colorado.

Page A – Click to Make Bigger

Cosmo Sex Tips p170

Page B – Click to Make Bigger

Cosmo Sex Tips p171

Cosmo Sex Tips p171